High Expectations..Good? Bad?
Is it good to set high expectations?
Well, it depends for who and how high...
It's important to set high expectations for yourself..it helps you to work harder, achieve higher and make fuller use of your time. You will automatically work towards meeting those expectations, thus you are becoming more motivated day by day. Setting expectations in life and meeting them will definitely help to increase self-confidence and self-esteem. With a little success, you know you are capable of achieving something and thus you wanna do more. Although, one has to be careful not to set too high expectations because it could lead to detrimental effect, especially to one's self-esteem that is when the expectations failed to be met..Setting inappropriate expectations for yourself are setting up for failure..So..my deduction for this issue is..general rule of thumb: set high expectations, but know where to draw the line...
One might then ask, How do we know where's the line?
The key is to challenge yourself without 'overextending' yourself. You know your capabilities, thus you can set up your own appropriate level of expectations...for example: if you usually got C's in school, don't overextend yourself to get all A's in next exam..set B's first, then when you manage to achieve it, set higher for A's.
I guess the next big question mark is..is it appropriate to set high expectations for other people?
I don't know the answer to this question so I asked 'Sheikh Google':
Your Expectations of Others
Just as your expectations about yourself can be harmful, so too can high expectations about others. If you constantly hold others to an unattainable level of high expectations, you will constantly feel like people are letting you down. This may lead you to believe that others don't care about you or that you don't deserve the attention of friends and family members. As you start to apply manageable expectations to yourself, it will also be beneficial to do so to others.
Gosh....
A friend then said to me,
"don't expect much azni, dengan org slain dri sndiri takleh ada expectation tinggi. kecewa and sedih tinggi nanti..."
From now on, I should expect more of myself, and least for other person..YEaHH!!
3 comments:
sooo true.
cam kita expect kawan kita akan buat camni camtu, but s/he naturally tak camtu. so kalau high expectation, kita akan kecewa dgn kawan kita and rasa cam nak get away dari derang. Kalau kita fikir what we can give to them, the environment will be better inshaALlah...
bak tema ust. Hasrizal, erti hidup untuk memberi.. =)
good topic :) expectation boleh dikatakan 'harapan', kita mengharap orang tuh bla bla bla..
Sbb tuh kene elakkan berharap pada manusia, kalau manusia tuh tak seperti yg diharapkan kan ke, tak buat seperti kita nak ke, kita akan senang kecewa, sedih.
Tp bila kita berharap pada Allah, manusia tuh buat mcm mana pun, kite akan redha =)
thanks kakak2 ku syg..=) really appreciate your comments..
yeap..i learnt that the hard way..people yg paling dekat dgn saya tu lah yg saya expect lagi banyak...turn out saya yg kecewa akhirnya sbb rsa mcam diorang xbuat apa yg sata expect diorang buat or jadi..padahal diorang bukan superman kan..
*sigh*
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